being in the moment with others

As musicians, we tend to be busy people.  We always have something to practice, a rehearsal or performance, somebody to meet.  We also tend to live in busy cities that encourage us to hustle to our next spot, to be faster than our competition.  We are constantly going somewhere that we sometimes (or all the time) aren’t where we are in that moment. We’re already onto the next thing.  We “get” through meetings with people. We don’t really spend time with them. Other people start to expect that, and in the end nobody has any value.  In turn, this hurts self-esteem and makes everyone anxious, generally unhappy, and desperate for human connection. I certainly get like this. However, I just recently saw the power of being in a moment with someone.  We were kidding around a bit.  He said something to the effect of, "You should be doing something else."  I asked, "What else should I be doing?"  It sounds silly, especially in a platonic situation.  Yet, it changed his demeanor, and it also meant something to me. Time suddenly became richer. I have to wonder what can I do to have more moments like these?